When husbands and wives develop habits that will keep their marriage healthy and strong, Greatness will happen in their marriage.


The following is a non exhaustive list of 10 biblical habits that husbands and wives can develop that can help them maintain a healthy marriage.

  1. Praying about the concerns of your marriage with and for your spouse as they arise.

  2. Trusting that the God designed scriptures regarding marriage are relevant for you and your spouse.

  3. Practicing forgiving one another in a timely manner.

  4. Practicing faithful and honoring behaviors that protects the purity of your marriage.

  5. Always valuing the opinions of your spouse even when they differ from your own.

  6. Never considering your spouse’s point of view to be unimportant.

  7. Being kind and tender-hearted towards one another; especially during challenging moments.

  8. Not being so quick to share displeasure about a situation, especially when you do not have accurate information.

  9. Communicating your specific needs, concerns, and desires to your spouse in a friendly manner.

  10. Being willing to meet the appropriate sexual needs of your spouse.


Consider the following correlating passages of scriptures –

1.  Prayer

Psalm 145:18 “The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth.” (ESV)

Philippians 4:6 “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.” (NASB)

2.  Trusting the Word of God

Psalm 9:10 “And those who know Your name will put their trust in You, For You, O LORD, have not forsaken those who seek You.” (NASB)

Psalm 19:8 “The precepts of the LORD are right, rejoicing the heart; The commandment of the LORD is pure, enlightening the eyes.” (NASB)

Psalm 119:105 “Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.” (ESV)

2 Peter 1:19-21 19 And we have the prophetic word more fully confirmed, to which you will do well to pay attention as to a lamp shining in a dark place, until the day dawns and the morning star rises in your hearts, 20 knowing this first of all, that no prophecy of Scripture comes from someone’s own interpretation. 21 For no prophecy was ever produced by the will of man, but men spoke from God as they were carried along by the Holy Spirit. ” (ESV)

3.  Timely Forgiveness

Romans 12:17 “Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all.” (ESV)

Ephesians 4:26-27 26 Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, 27 and give no opportunity to the devil.” (ESV)

Ephesians 4:32 “Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.” (NASB)

4.  Faithful and honoring behaviors

Hebrews 13:4 “Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” (NASB)

Titus 2:11-12 “11 For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people,” 12 instructing us to deny ungodliness and worldly desires and to live sensibly, righteously and godly in the present age,” (NASB)

5.  Valuing Differing Opinions

Romans 12:16 “Be of the same mind toward one another; do not be haughty in mind, but associate with the lowly. Do not be wise in your own estimation.” (NASB)

1 Peter 3:8 “Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind.”(ESV)

6.  Knowing Your Spouse’s Viewpoint is Important too.

Romans 14:19 “So then we pursue the things which make for peace and the building up of one another.” (NASB)

Philippians 2:33 Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; 4 do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.” (NASB)

James 3:17 “But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere.” (ESV)

7.  Being Kind and Tenderhearted

Ephesians 4:32 “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” (ESV)

Colossians 3:12 “Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience,” (ESV)

Colossians 3:19 “Husbands, love your wives and do not be embittered against them.” (NASB)

8.  Not falsely accusing your spouse.

James 1:19-20 19 Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; 20 for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.” (ESV)

Proverbs 3:30 “Do not contend with a man without cause, If he has done you no harm.” (NASB)

Proverbs 20:3 “Keeping away from strife is an honor for a man, But any fool will quarrel.” (NASB)

Proverbs 17:4 “The beginning of strife is like letting out water, So abandon the quarrel before it breaks out.” (NASB)

James 4:1 What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? (ESV)

9.  Communicating Well With Each Other

Proverbs 15:25 “The heart of the righteous ponders how to answer, But the mouth of the wicked pours out evil things.” (NASB)

Proverbs 10:32 “The lips of the righteous know what is acceptable, but the mouth of the wicked, what is perverse.” (ESV)

James 1:5 “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.” (ESV)

10. Meeting Your Spouse’s Appropriate Sexual Needs

1 Corinthians 7:3-4 3 The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” (ESV)


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