Marriage Devotional Online: Believe

Rhonda Robinson

I Can’t Believe I Married Him


During the first few years of my marriage, I had many “I can’t believe I married him” moments. Like the first year, when he decided to tile the floor in the one and only bathroom we had in the house. The tile job expanded to tiling the bathtub area and then he decided to expand the bathroom, so he tore out the wall around the tub. Let’s just say it did not end well and on top of that I was pregnant with our first child and quite the unlovable person, by my own admission.  I even suggested that he go live with his mama, during my 8th month of pregnancy, because I could not believe I married a man like him.

Then there was the time he decided to use our wood floors in the house as a testing ground for his new business in floor restoration and carpet cleaning. I was again pregnant and I came home to a house with dust everywhere from the sanding of the floors. I remember vacuuming, before I could lay down and for some reason I had to sleep on the living room pull out sofa. That was another, “I can’t believe I married him” moment.

The amazing thing about life is that situations are temporary. If, we could all just BELIEVE that God wants the best for His children, especially in the covenant of marriage.  My husband only wanted to give me a beautiful big bathroom, in the beginning. That was his true intentions, not to make me uncomfortable or unhappy. Even, though he is no handyman he did the best he could in taking on a project that he thought would make me happy and improve the house. Then when he tackled the floor, he was only trying a new venture to better our income, so I could live comfortably at home, not to mention we had a new mouth to feed.  Unfortunately, I was to blind and selfish to see that during these occurrences, I made the experience into an event that started to shape the way I viewed him as a person and I challenged his character as a man.

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Am I to believe that when things don’t occur in the way I want, that I am being punished or that someone is doing things to irritate me deliberately? What a warped and selfish way of thinking I had about life and especially my husband. God does not want you to believe the lies of the enemy or the opinions of your friends and families about your spouse either. We give the devil a whole lot of credit for our own fallen human nature being the culprit in many situations. God wants us to protect our marriages; His Word says that love covers the mistakes.

1 Peter 4:8 English Standard Version (ESV) 8 Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.

So, today I challenge you to believe the best of your spouse again. Truly, ask God to give you discernment in your spirit of what their true intentions are in the everyday occurrences of life and stop making mistakes major events. Also, everybody doesn’t need to know when your spouse fails or makes a mistake. Protect your spouse and give them the same measure of respect that you want for yourself.  God’s Word tells us how two can uplift and help one another. Be your spouse’s lifter, not the enemy, they have enough circumstances trying to defeat them daily.

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Ecclesiastes 4: 9 English Stand Version (ESV) 9 Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. 10 For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! 11 Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? 12 And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

Consider the following scriptures –

Philippians 2:3 “Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves;” (NASB)

Colossians 3:12 “So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience;” (NASB)

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