We all know that it is easier to deal with the mistakes of our spouses when we are not angry with them. On the other hand, when we are angry with them, dealing with their mistakes are not so easy to do. We would all probably agree that our spouse’s mistakes become magnified at this point. Therefore, you should try to keep peace in your house as much as possible by not being too quick to become angry or upset about issues that don’t really matter. Now, if an issue is worth you becoming angry or upset, take the following actions into consideration.


Pray for wisdom and self-control.

At this point emotions can quickly get out of control and cause your words and actions to become ungodly and a hazard to your marriage.


Patiently listen to your spouse’s point of view.

This is where the prayer for wisdom and self-control comes into play. Your spouse may or may not be willing to own up to their wrong doings or mistakes at this time. Give your spouse room to repent; pride can prevent us all from taking ownership of behaviors that causes us to look bad. Give them a chance to redeem themselves and pray that God will help them acknowledge, correct, and work towards becoming better in the area that they failed in.


React in a manner that is not sinful.

It is easy to react emotionally and irrationally, especially when your spouse is not reacting as you think they should. Pray for the right words to say to your spouse and if the words do not come to mind right away, wait on the Lord until they do. In the meantime, calmly tell your spouse that you will talk to them about this later and then find a quiet place and ask the Lord again for the right words that you should speak to your spouse.


These principles may sound foreign to you now; however, after you have practiced them for a while, you will have found out that they were always the natural and godly thing to do.


Consider the following scriptures –

Romans 12:18 “If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.” (ESV)

James 1:19 “Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger;” (ESV)

1 Corinthians 13:4 “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant” (ESV)

Colossians 3:12 “Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience,” (ESV)

James 1:26 “If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person’s religion is worthless.” (ESV)