When husbands and wives choose to resolve the ongoing conflicts of their marriage instead of continuing the cycle of disharmony and opposition, Great things happen. 

Consider the following passages of scripture and brief application that will help move your marriage to greatness as you apply this principle in your marriage

Ephesians 4:31-32 (ESV) – 31 Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. 32 Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

James 4:1 (ESV) – What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you?

James 3:18 (ESV) And a harvest of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.

A Brief Application

Conflict is when disagreement produces disharmony with the outcome of opposition between you and your spouse. The next step in this process can either be a resolution or the continuation of a cycle of intermitted disharmony and opposition between you and your spouse. Which one will you choose? My prayer is that you would choose the resolution instead of continuing to allow the conflicts to go unresolved in your marriage.

The unresolved conflicts or challenges that you and your spouse are unable to resolve, is terrible for your marriage. It builds up tension, resentment, bitterness, and a feeling of dissatisfaction with your spouse and your marriage. If you ever wondered why you are feeling a little or a lot distant from your spouse, unresolved conflicts more than likely is the main culprit. When you and your spouse are unable to resolve the conflicts that stands between the two of you, the end result is that the unresolved conflicts are actually standing in-between the two of you. Unresolved conflicts causes an invisible barrier to be developed between you and your spouse, which causes you and your spouse to become disconnected emotionally, spiritually, and physically.

So, how can you get a resolution to the ongoing conflicts of your marriage? Here are two things that you can start doing right now that will help you get a resolution to the ongoing conflicts that are standing between you and your spouse.

1. Stop being so difficult to talk to!

Being friendly and open to talk about the issues that really matters, is an important component of a happy marriage. No one wants to be married to someone who blows up every time they can’t get their way. Spouses who act this way should grow up and deal with the fact that things are not going to always go their way.

2. Share the decision making process.

When you made the decision to get married, you also made the decision to share life with the person that you got married to. And the last time that I checked, sharing did not include keeping everything for yourself. It’s time for you to let go of some of your stuff and allow your spouse to have some. You can’t make all of the decisions, spend all of the money, and only agree with terms that are favorable to you. Compromise is a big part of marriage. Your spouse’s feelings, emotions, and opinions are just as important as yours. So, this means that you will have to get pass your selfishness, grow up, and be the man or woman that you expect your spouse to be.

Once you have learned to let go of yourself and allow your spouse to share in the decision making process concerning those issues that you once were unwilling to compromise on, the barrier that stands between you and your spouse will start to evaporate.

We would love to help you resolve the ongoing conflicts that are standing in between you and your spouse. Just think of  how much of a relief it would be to finally be able to resolve the ongoing conflicts that are pulling you and your spouse apart. Nobody wants to be disconnected from their spouses in any way, if anything we know that you want to find a way to draw closer to your spouse.  We can help you with that.

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