21 Mar How Much Is Your Spouse Worth? Most Husbands and Wives Undervalue Their Spouse
Are You Undervaluing Your Spouse’s Worth?
How much is your spouse worth? If you had to put a value on everything they do—emotionally, physically, and spiritually—would your estimation match their actual worth?
Most husbands and wives undervalue their spouse without realizing it. They assume their spousr’s sacrifices, love, and contributions are simply part of “their role.” But if you were to truly assess how much your spouse is worth, would you be shocked by what you’ve taken for granted?
The Bible reminds us of the immeasurable value of a godly spouse:
Proverbs 31:10 (ESV) – “An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.”
A godly spouse (whether husband or wife) is far more valuable than anything money can buy—yet many fail to recognize this until it’s too late.
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The Hidden Value of Your Spouse
Let’s break it down. How much is your spouse worth when…
- Your wife puts her career on hold to raise your children and manage your home?
- Your husband works long hours to provide financial security for your family?
- Your wife juggles both a full-time job and household responsibilities to ensure a stable home life?
- Your husband not only provides but protects, nurtures, helps around the house, and leads your family spiritually?
- Your spouse offers emotional support, companionship, and unconditional love—even when you don’t deserve it?
- Your spouse prays for you, fights for your marriage, and remains faithful through trials?
If we truly understood how much our spouse is worth, we would be more grateful, loving, and intentional in our marriage.
The Bible affirms that marriage is a sacred blessing, meant to be nurtured and cherished:
Psalm 128:3-4 (ESV) – “Your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house; your children will be like olive shoots around your table. Behold, thus shall the man be blessed who fears the Lord.”
A godly spouse brings fruitfulness, security, and joy into a home. Are you honoring that blessing—or overlooking it?
The Cost of Failing to Recognize Your Spouse’s Worth
When a husband or wife feels undervalued, bitterness grows. When a spouse believes they are nothing more than a provider, housekeeper, or afterthought, resentment festers. And when love is overshadowed by entitlement or neglect, the marriage suffers.
The Bible is clear—husbands are called to love sacrificially, and wives are called to honor and respect their husbands:
Ephesians 5:25 (ESV) – “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”
Ephesians 5:33 (NASB) – “Each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband.”
A wife who feels unappreciated will emotionally withdraw.
A husband who feels disrespected may stop leading or engaging.
This leads to disconnection, frustration, and even marital breakdown.
Most People Only Realize Their Spouse’s Worth When It’s Too Late
How often do we hear someone say, “I didn’t realize how much they did for me until they were gone”?
After divorce.
After separation.
After death.
Don’t let loss be the thing that opens your eyes. Appreciate your spouse now.
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Biblical Truth: Your Spouse’s Worth in God’s Eyes
God commands us to recognize and honor our spouse’s worth. The failure to do so can even affect our relationship with Him:
1 Peter 3:7 (ESV) – “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.”
If you are neglecting your spouse’s worth, your prayers may be hindered. That’s serious.
The Bible also tells us to actively work at honoring one another:
Romans 12:10 (ESV) – “Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.”
Imagine if every husband and wife made it their goal to outdo one another in honor. What would that do to your marriage?
How to Show Your Spouse Their True Worth
If you want to strengthen your marriage and reflect God’s design for love and partnership, start with these intentional actions:
✅ Verbally affirm their worth—Tell your spouse what you love and appreciate about them every single day.
✅ Acknowledge their sacrifices—Don’t assume that what they do is just their “role” or something they’re supposed to do. Serving, providing, and supporting—whether emotionally, financially, or spiritually—are acts of love that should never be taken lightly.
✅ Treat them with honor and respect—Your tone, words, and actions should reflect their God-given worth.
✅ Pray for them daily—Your spouse’s greatest support should come through your prayers and spiritual encouragement.
Marriage is about two people lifting each other up, not tearing each other down.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 (ESV) – “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!”
A strong marriage is a covenant of support. Are you actively lifting your spouse up—or are you assuming that their efforts should go unnoticed?
Final Thought: How Much Is Your Spouse Worth to You?
If you had to put a price on your spouse’s worth, would your actions reflect it?
👉 It’s time to stop taking your spouse for granted.
👉 It’s time to honor, cherish, and recognize their true worth.
So, let me ask you one last time…
How much is your spouse worth?
🙏 Here’s A Prayer for How Much Is Your Spouse Worth
The Title of This Prayer is: A Heart of Gratitude for Your Spouse
Heavenly Father,
Thank You for the incredible gift of marriage and for blessing me with my spouse. Forgive me for the times I have taken them for granted or failed to recognize their worth. Open my eyes to see them as You see them—precious, valuable, and irreplaceable.
Help me to be intentional in honoring, loving, and respecting them as You have called me to. Let my words reflect appreciation, and let my actions demonstrate my gratitude.
In Jesus’ name,
Amen.
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💬 Reflection Questions for How Much Is Your Spouse Worth
- What are three ways your spouse adds value to your life?
- Would your spouse say they feel truly appreciated? Why or why not?
- How does your treatment of your spouse align with biblical principles of honor and love?
- What specific action can you take this week to express their worth more clearly?
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