02 Feb Hurtful
The Color of Marriage Devotional
Today’s Devotion – HURTFUL
Today’s devotion is about hurtful, as it applies to marriage.
Have you ever held on to something that you should have let go, and because you didn’t, you got hurt? Think about it, we’ve all done this at one time or another in our marriages. Take the following examples into consideration.
When you hold on to the hurtful conversations between you and your spouse, this is what happens. When you hold on to your spouse’s misguided intentions that hurt your feelings, this is what happens. When you hold on to the awful experiences of your marriage that was caused by your spouse that brought you silent pain, this is what happens.
Stop holding on to hurtful memories, whether past or present, give them to God, forgive your spouse, and free yourself of the unnecessary pain that’s ruining your marriage and your peace. When you do this, you will start to see past the hurt, and into your spouse’s heart where you will discover a person who has been hurt just like you but chose to let go of the pain so they wouldn’t hurt you. I know that this is not the case in all marriages, but for the most part, it’s true in most marriages.
To see if it’s true in your marriage, dare to ask yourself, did my spouse really mean to say those hurtful words that was said or were they just responding out of their own pain at that time and in their own way asked for forgiveness soon after. Dare to ask yourself, was my spouse’s misguided intentions really a mistake, and that’s what they said, and I just didn’t believe them. Dare to ask yourself, was the awful experience something that could have been avoided, but you made it bigger than what it really was by not trying to understand what was happening and giving your spouse grace. If you are honest, you will see that all of this is true and forgiveness, understanding, and grace will start healing your marriage today.
On last word. Hurtful memories start when you choose to not let go of a hurtful situation that was never meant to hurt you. When you choose to not see things for what they really are by asking God for clarification. When you choose to not forgive and let go in the moment, but instead hold on to the hurt that you could have let go.
Key Marriage Scriptures for today’s devotion:
Psalms 34:18, Romans 12:17, Romans 12:19, Ephesians 4:31-32, Philippians 4:6-7, 1 Peter 3:8-12, & 1 Peter 5:7
Next steps to take:
Pray. Ask God to reveal to you all of the hurtful memories that you need to know, that are hurting your marriage. When God brings them to your mind, ask Him to help you to forgive your spouse of each specific memory that God will cause you to remember. When the prayer is done, ask your spouse to forgive you for holding on to the hurtful memories that you should have let go of the moment they happened or soon after that.
Make sure that you remember that you forgave your spouse for the hurtful events. When you are triggered, for whatever reason, and remember the events that you forgave, don’t forget to remind yourself that you have already forgiven your spouse for what has happened. Also, ask God to help you to not react to your hurt feelings that will come about with the hurtful triggers.
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